vrijdag 6 januari 2023

Bye 22, hello 23! - resolutions

Helloooo. Happy new year! I hope you had some good holidays and wish everyone a healthy and great new year!

I wanted to create a summary of my fashion year and then share some resolutions for 2023. 

2022

Last year for me was all about rediscovering J-fashion. I started watching videos from Cybr.Grl about Fairy Kei and Decora, and I was getting into using the Vinted app at the start of the year and discovered that obviously there is cute fashion on there as well. So I took a deep-dive into everything and started coming up with some outfits. I was sort-of tired of Lolita/EGL fashion because of the silhouette and the colors and I loved 'branching out.

Then I joined the Fairy Kei discord as well and that helped me a lot with understanding the difference between normal 'kawaii' (or yumekawaii) outfits and Fairy Kei. People shared tons of inspiration there so I fell in love even more. I discovered a cheaper japanese shopping service and since then it's been a fun ride!

I've been trying out Fairy Kei before, but I had only one outfit and some way-too-short Bodyline panniers. I never knew that there were better panniers out there (Some of you might say tutu (shorter) or petticoat (longer) but in Japan they call it pannier so there, I like the word).
What can I say: pastels and cute prints make me happy. Soft and flowy clothes make me happy.  I think I had some years before getting a kid where I thought I had to look more mature, but in the end it is all about whatever makes you happy! It's not like I wear this to work, but wearing cute things makes my heart go doki-doki.

Here are some outfits I liked:


2023

This year I want to keep wearing Fairy Kei and maybe try some more Spank!-related outfits (Spank! is what the shop is called that the fashion was influenced by).

My resolutions are:


- Create and wear more handmade items. I saved some sewing/crafting projects and yes I do not have a lot of time for it so that is probably the reason, but I still have that ambition (and love making stuff of course).

A list:

  • a fluffy scarf/muffler (still need some lining for this, but the fabric is here)
  • bloomers (fleece?)
  • handmade fancy legwarmers with frills
  • mint- and lavender colored waistbelts
  • cute accessories like rosettes and ear-rings and some two-way smaller bows.
  • I need necklaces that are cat-themed and bunny-themed.
  • I want to use all the molds I bought for resin-crafting XD.
  • upcycle things, like the fleece pants I bought never did something with. Or that pink nightgown. Or maybe even use my old lolita dresses to make new skirts or something.

- I want to try different silhouettes. I've been wearing mostly the 'classic' fairy look: shirt + skirt + legwarmers + sneakers, but I want to try other things more. I want to try something with pants and bloomers and I would love to try to wear Nile Perch kind of dresses (but NP probably doesn't fit me so...I'll have to make it myself). Not sure how well it looks (my body was made for classic fairy XD) but I'll try.

- I want to use more accessories. Of course I also want to make them, but accessories add so much cuteness to an outfit.

- I want to buy less and sell whatever I don't wear as much. Last year I bought a lot, it was almost embarrassing. Fairy Kei is cheaper than lolita, so second-hand the shirts or skirts were like 5-10 euros, it was nothing (obviously not counting shipping + import costs). I really like selling whatever I don't use: other people get to use it and it gives you back a little money.

- I'd love to make my new room in our new house super-duper-kawaii. I've been bookmarking things and it has no priority but yes I'm looking forward to it. Also here thanks for the Fairy Kei discord, there are some super-creative people on there and I love being part of it.

- It is a bit of far reach and still a dream but maybe we will make plans to go to Japan again!

Luckily our family (my parents and my mom-in-law) is very helpful (we love you!), so we have a bit more time again on our hands. That might help with this. Although I still have some other projects that need to be finished, I hope I can do all of the above this year!



dinsdag 12 juli 2022

Switching to Fairy Kei and other styles

Hello there ♫,

This blog is due for a huge update! Wow, it was..what...almost 1,5 years ago since I posted? It's now 2022 😐.. Well I did expect some delay because of my master degree/education and my baby (now toddler), but there are also other reasons why I didn't post as much. For people who follow my instagram, they probably already know I've been going into a new direction with my fashion style, but there is more...

What happened?

I think february this year (2022) was when I started browsing Vinted a lot more, which is this app in Europe where you can sell second hand clothes and goods. I didn't take a look at 'normal' highstreet fashion for a long time (only functionally on occasion), I came across a lot of cute clothes that I never saw before. I guess it helps that new-retro / Y2K fashion is 'in' at the moment, but also I feel there is more influence from asian fashion nowadays, for normal (non J-fashion style) clothing that is. Anyway, I started buying some things (without knowing of the brands btw), and then made an outfit. I then started asking on instagram how this would be 'called' (because I'm used to labels so much), and some people referred to videos about other J-fashion styles (not related to what I wore btw). Since then I've been kind of hooked on wearing this kind of semi-cute and/or other styles like Decora or Fairy kei...in my 'free time' that is.

Why? Are you leaving lolita fashion?

I've been asking this myself. When I look at my own former coords in lolita fashion, often my thoughts are like "this is kind of boring" and "it's not really that cute anymore". I guess this is related to the fact that I don't wear sweet lolita anymore, but also because of the repeating silhouette. I mean, lolita is basically the same silhouette over and over and I got kind of bored with it I guess? The years before my pregnancy I've been trying to renew my coords a bit by buying new cardigans, blouses, accessories etc or making new dresses myself, but in the end it actually didn't really satisfy me anymore as it used to. 

But I'm not saying I'm totally 'leaving' lolita fashion. I actually do like that I don't wear it as often now, it feels nicer to me when I wear it again after a longer while. I think my jewel-toned stuff is perfect for autumn and winter too. I also think Covid had to do with it. I had a lot of fun in the years before Covid to go to meet-ups and talk with lolita friends and such, but that didn't really happen for a long while. And then I also got a baby, so it is much more of an effort to go to a meet after not sleeping very well (and it takes me usually like 2+ hours travelling..). And then I also had a part-time master degree to get next to it, and then I also am a 'freelance' life-coach. Basically if I run low on energy I don't dress up in any fancy fashion anyway :P. 

But the fact is that I'm just not as hyped about wearing lolita fashion as I was anymore, and that's fine too. I feel it's much better to naturally change into new things than to say "I stop now and that's it", because I do NOT feel there is such a moment to drastically stop and change. I never really understood the terms "leaving lolita", or the Japanese version "graduating from..". I still like to wear it once in a while, and to see/follow it online.

Then what about Fairy Kei or Decora?

At the same time, I still feel like dressing up, I mean it's just a thing that makes me happy, to wear clothes that make me happy ♡. I started doing this casually, wearing pastel-colored pants and a sweater, or a rainbow-colored shirt with pastel pants etc. Then I took the courage to wear my cute doughnut hearts skirt again, after finding a kawaii fairy-kei like shirt, and after that I just decided that yes, this definitely makes me more happy. I guess it's also because I let myself not be so perfectionistic. I basically don't wear make-up or straighten my hair, because I don't have the time for it. I really don't, I don't know how other people do this when they have a young kid. And I put all my clothes and accessories now in the same room so it cost less effort to gather everything, and I (finally?) sticked the mirror to the wall on a decent height.

What is different then though?

Yeah, it doesn't feel the same as lolita. It was easy with lolita to match things, actually I think it might have been easier than Fairy kei or Decora, although the rules seem slightly less strict there. I've been on the Fairy Kei Discord server for some months now and it seems there are still some rules (no surprise..) and now I feel like I'm still learning, like in the early days when I was wearing lolita. But that actually excites me, so it's good. It's new stuff to learn! And again, it also seems like there is less clarity about the 'standard' and so it feels like I can, to a certain degree, just wear what I like. Well, I mean I already started to do that anyway but I guess I'm learning the borders between Fairy, Pop and Decora a bit, and definitely not calling myself an expert. It kinda makes me happy to be in that 'space'. Anyway, steering away from lolita meant that I felt I just could wear whatever liked and I wished I had done that sooner. I feel stupid now for thinking so restrictingly. Basically it's also quite a lot cheaper, so that helps too 😅. 

So anyway, I can't promise a lot of blog-posts anymore. I don't know exactly what the future brings, but it would make a lot more sense now tojust follow my instagram I guess :). See you around!

woensdag 6 januari 2021

2020 wardrobe additions and summary

Phew, we made it people, it's 2021! I wish everyone all the best for this new year, I'm sure we'll still be all affected by the effects of Covid-19 but at least there is an end to it in sight. So have a healthy and happy 2021.

I didn't post a lot after October, though I kept my Risu Rose blog updated with things I had made and the wardrobe page here . I think it might be time for a 2020 lolita summary.

Wardrobe additions

35 weeks pregnant here, so no petti!
Main pieces - 4 dresses, 1 skirt. As you already know I made a jsk back in January and also bought a brand new one from Axes Femme in October, however, I never mentioned here that I also bought a one-piece 2nd hand (from someone in Canada, and it took a loooong while before it was here, probably because of covid-19 delays). It's from the (I assume Chinese) brand Imagine & Spectacle. I love the print and cut and I bought this in a bigger size so I could fit in it while being pregnant and/or after pregnancy but the bust still is quite big and unfortunately the lacing in the back doesn't change that because the bust is fixed on the front to the lace border under it (sigh, maybe I'll just sell it again when I'm back to my normal figure).

Then last summer I purchased a nice navy velvety fabric with a flower-print and a month ago I finally sew a dress with it. Not super-lolita but I'll add it to the list anyway. Then in December somebody from our Dutch community was clearing their wardrobe and I caught a bodyline skirt for cheap, it has a tiny spot somewhere that couldn't be washed out I think but you don't see it from far probably, for 5 euro I just couldn't let it go and I hope to coord this somewhere this coming year if I can.

Tops

I bought three blouses and one cardigan! Two blouses were second-hand, and two of them are from western brands. The new one I bought though is not fitting me so well and I don't really like the cut, so I'll have to sell it again. It's one from H&M even (yes I know, I felt bad about buying it, but I thought I didn't fit in any of my other black blouses anymore while being pregnant and I was looking at Lacemarket for months but to no avail. Turned out it wasn't that much of a problem after all (until november that is..), so yeah. The pink one I found at a thrift-shop closeby and the one with princess sleeves was a gain from a fellow Dutchie. The light-green cardigan I bought from my dear friend Charlotte, also known as Hobbitkei on insta. It's from Baby The Stars Shine Bright and it fits so comfy, I love it!






Socks/tights

This year I actually bought more socks than I thought, this might be because I browsed way too long on AliExpress on some days because I was a bit bored (?). It's a bit hard though to remember what was exactly bought this year. The ones I do remember were the Infanta steampunk-ish tights I bought to go with the Isabella JSK. I also tried my best to look for white otks with gold details on Lacemarket, to go with that new navy jsk (which also has gold details), but I couldn't find anything and bought some from the Chinese brand Reina. It has a print with fancy angels on them! By the way, I'm also still looking for otks in black with gold details, so if you see any, let me know (I know I have tights, but sometimes otks are just easier...)

Shoes

If you would have asked me years ago: I disliked shoes with glitter on them, but this year I felt fancy and wanted a pair of gold shoes to go with dresses that have gold details, so I bought them. They are a bit too small though, so I won't be walking in them for long, haha. Next to that I saw a really pretty and cute but also cool pair of shoes in black/burgundy from Axes Femme on Closet Child in November, they were only 880 yen, can you believe it? They still look brand-new too and fit great and I love the details on it, I'm so happy.


Headwear

This year I took the effort again to make some headwear, clips and bows myself, so here they are:

 

 

The bow-clips were made to go with the new dresses. The star clips aren't very original, I know, but I found these velveteen-ish stars in different colors on AliExpress and immediately thought I could use them to make some clips with them. I do like the dangly starclips but all I did have were in pastel colors, so I wanted some in colors I actually wear. Still have to use them though.

I also purchased a range of new berets (except for the pink one I already had), but didn't wear them yet a lot because I didn't dress up as much because of pregnancy-low-energy.

Accessories

 

A pair of wristcuffs for the navy OP that I made ... And I bought a black skirt-overlay from Charlotte, it's originally from Summer Tales Boutique.

Bags

In despite of sitting at home a lot, I actually bought some bags, they are off-brand (or random Chinese stores I mean..non lolita-brands). It's too bad though that both bags were a bit of a disappointment. One had a different color blue than shown and the heart-shaped bag was folded on all sides to fit in a package that was too small for it, I got part of my money back for that. Too bad, because the bag itself is nice but now not so flat anymore. Well.. that'll teach me to buy cheap stuff from China, eh.

 

Jewelry

 

All hand-made! Actually I'm pretty happy with how the rings and necklace turned out, I used UV resin to make them. Besides these I made some simple bracelets.

Hmm, so after all I still gained quite some additions to my wardrobe, even though I did not wear lolita fashion a lot. I hope I can still coord them after pregnancy though!

2020 development in lolita fashion

This year I feel like I more and more turned towards classic-like coordinations. I did wear some sweet but seeing those coords last months I felt like it didn't really suit my taste that much anymore even though I think it's adorable on others. I think country lolita might be the closest I'll go with it.

I think it is interesting that this year the sweet trend a la 2010 became popular again. Even as much as that some prices on the 2nd hand market doubled. I still didn't really like a lot of new releases though. I thought the cut of Lovely Poodle from Angelic Pretty was really nice, but not into the print even when it has dogs, and sorry but the colors are desaturated and I don't like that. I thought the Little Witch series was adorable though, but the print itself was desaturated a bit again? Otherwise I would have loved either the wine or black colorway. AP's Rose Tea Garden interested me a bit, but I thought the border print was just a little bit too repititive  (and colorblocked background colors), plus the ruffles on the bust are not my thing. 
One that I loved was the British Bear casual OP, if only they would have made the waist a bit lower. AP, please, most of us western people aren't flat-chasted or that small 😞. I'm still sad because gosh, I would have really bought it if the waste was 5-10 cm lower. Gives some inspiration for handmade things though, to make with a hoodie/cutsew top.

Somehow I didn't really follow BTSSB/AatP or Meta a lot this year. Except for the big Magical Artefact sale that went big because of bigger sizes. I've considered it but wasn't too sure if I would wear lolita after pregnancy anymore so didn't buy it. Kumya's Christmas Market was adorable, but I don't wear sweet like that anymore. 
And yeah actually I feel fine with looking at second hand things, as it is more affordable for me and seeing as I don't know how much I'll wear it coming years, I think I have something else coming up to invest in :P. We'll see what 2021 brings!

zondag 18 oktober 2020

Axes Femme global shop & dress - review

At the start of October I saw @go.kishi on Instagram promoting a jumperskirt from Axes Femme, that I sort-of instantly fell in love with. I couldn't be sure that it would fit me nicely at the moment because of my pregnancy but I weighed the chances of this showing up second hand later and me liking it so much and decided I will buy it new. I never ordered from Axes Femme before, even though they have an global online shop in English, so I was excited and decided to write a review as well for anyone who is thinking of ordering from their global shop.

About Axes Femme

Axes Femme, as you probably know, is a Japanese brand/shop that sells elegant and 'kawaii' clothing that are very close to the elegant lolita fashion, mostly towards the classic style. It features frills and bows, with a bit of a vintage look. I have visited their physical shops several times when I was in Japan and that one time when it still was in Paris. Although sometimes their clothes don't fit me (either too wide on my waist or too small on my bust seeing as I have a hourglass type body), some of it does and I really like the style so I often also check second hand things at Closet Child

Second hand, their clothes are very cheap and affordable, but I guess that also says a little bit about the quality of it, although it may be a hit or miss, it is still some kind of fast-fashion I think (or semi?) and their prices reflect that, although new it is not as cheap as H&M for example, but it is at least about half the price of some lolita brands, nowadays even a lot cheaper. I already own some shirts, a cardigan, and once modified a dress from them to fit me.

Buying from the global shop

Anyway, back to the shopping. The global online shop works basically like any other online shop: you browse through a category/style, choose an item its colour and add the item to your cart. I have noticed their stock photos are different in quality. For the dress I bought, the modelling was done in a non-natural light and not high resolution so it looked actually like someone took photos for instagram and put those on the website. The stock-photos themselves were made without petticoat and with less light so it looks actually darker than on the model. I wasn't really sure about the colour because of this and since what I saw on instagram was a lot lighter, but I liked the print anyway.

The size was listed including length, bust, shoulder width and waist and I think that is very convenient for Western people also to check if it might fit or not.

I put it in my cart and after some browsing I went to the cart to check out. There it showed that not everything was translated. The top of the cart still is in Japanese kanji since it is an image, not text. The list itself is in English though. The price is in US Dollars, but tells on the item page that it is actually calculated from Japanese Yen, so if you are going to pay, you pay the price in Japanese Yen (to whatever it converts in your country).

Now when I wanted to check out, it became a bit weird. I already took the effort to create an account just in case I could check what I ordered or wanted to order something again, so my address was already filled in, but it did not calculate the shipping costs at all, so something was off. I refreshed the page a few times but it didn't change. Then I tried closing my browser and opening one up again and try again and now it did work, luckily.
The shipping price calculated was ¥3350, which is about 27 Euro. I think it is a standard price if you order a package from Japan. The cheapest method isn't available at the moment because of Covid-19. On the website it doesn't tell a lot about the shipping methods, only that it is delivered either by EMS ot International parcel. Since it got here within two weeks I think EMS was used.

Then the next hurdle came: paying. The website states you can pay with either Paypal or Creditcard. I use Paypal a lot, so I opted for that but every time I clicked it, it gave me an error, which was pretty annoying. So I had to use our creditcard after all. I filled in the details and that also gave an error, but at least it said something was wrong with what I filled in. Turned out they didn't want to use the dots between the letters for the (pre)name. After that everything went alright and it was ordered!

Shipping

I got a mail with the order information, shipping address and item details (without photo though), it was simply a confirmation of the order. Then one day later I got a mail with a "notification of shipment", that included a tracking number which means they had shipped it out. It didn't give a link how to track it but luckily I know you can just fill it in at the Japanese post website. One day later it already arrived at the airport, and three days later it was dispatched overseas. It arrived (or was registered) in The Netherlands five days later. I filled it in in our national post app on my phone and it showed that it would be shipped to a post office (or parcel center) the day after that (so I can pay my customs, sigh). Anyway, shipping was very fast and I'm happy with that!

It came in a coloured/patterned Axes Femme box, the jsk was wrapped in plastic and a simple print-out of the order was attached. Some extra buttons were attached to the jsk and the waist-ties were seperately packed in plastic as well. I didn't know about the wais-ties (or forgot about them) so I was happily surprised with that.

Summary for the shop(ping) review:

Online shop experience: ★★★✰✰ 3/5
Although the shop is easy to browse, there was the hassle with checking out and the payment (method). You also can not choose your method of shipping, but that might also be because of Covid-19. I also think they don't state a lot of details/info in their FAQ or mails, making it a bit untrustworthy-looking for foreigners perhaps. It feels almost like that part of it is like a small person running an online shop for the first time, not thinking aout the client experience.

Shipping: ★★★★★ 5/5
It was shipped out the next day and arrived within two weeks, which is very quickly, especially if you compare it to the state of shipping because of Covid-19 (I still did not receive my dress from Canada after 1,5 month..)

Quality of the dress

Of course the jumperskirt was a bit wrinkled from the package, but that is normal. I know Axes Femme is a bit of a cheaper brand (jsk was ¥6900, which is about 56 euro) so it didn't surprise me that the dress is totally made from polyester fabric. Because of this at least they lined it, else it would be way too thin. At least what is nice about polyester is that the print is very crisp. 

I compared it with the dress I bought from them two years ago, but the fabric is even thinner unfortunately. And while the older dress had a nice trim on the bottom of the upper layer, this one just had a normal seam (sewn a bit too tight even I think as you can see a bit of wrinkling here). The bottom layer has a soft tulle ruffled trim to it, which I think looks nice but also is prone to rip easily, I would have been happier with chiffon instead. I also found some loose threads near the gathering of the fabric near the waist. Not that that is uncommon (when I sew things myself it happens often), but it least they could have cut it more neatly. So it feels a bit cheap, the quality went down in total.

The top part fits me nicely even with my bigger cup size now because of pregnancy, so I was very happy with that. That is because the back is fully shirred, it is quite comfortable to wear because of this. For people that are small in size I can imagine it might even be a bit too loose, but hey had a different version of this dress anyway (another one was an OP with a casual plain-colored top. I really loved the buttons for the waistties and the lacing/ribbon on the front. 

A bit of a downer though is that they didn't really consider the placing of the print on the top, as you can see I have two keyhole-elements of the print on the left side of it, one is even right next to the lacing/ribbon. Would have been better to just only have the fleur-de-lys pattern on it. I kind of like the small tule trim of the front seems and upper bust part as I don't see that often in jsk's, but when I wear it, it does poof forward a bit and doesn't stay neatly 'attached flatly' to the fabric so to say. It doesn't bother me too much atm, maybe it would stay flat with a smaller cup-size.


What I really liked and bought this jsk for is of course the print and the lacing on the top and that is neatly done. The color is a bit darker than I expected, the photos show a bit of a true color (at least on my monitor), while in the modelled picture it looks like the red/purple goes a bit higher, which I would have liked more, but I still really like the print anyway. What is also good to mention is that the shoulder-staps are adjustable in height, for those who are a bit taller. 

Summary dress-quality review

Quality of material/sewing: ★★✰✰✰ 2-2.5/5
Unfortunately, it just looks and feels a bit cheap, even considering the Axes Femme is not a major quality brand like AP/Baby. They have done things that are better for the same price. Considering the price though of 56 euro, I guess that reflects it fairly, but because I know some of their older things are better, I did not expect it.

Overall dress look/cut: ★★★★✰ 3.5-4/5
The full shirring, waist-ties, adustable shoulderstaps and the lower print/cut itself make me still like this dress a lot. I think I'll just have to be careful while wearing it. Here is an outfit I made with it for the online Summer Tales Boutique halloween meet:
I hope this review was a bit useful for anyone who considers buying from their global shop, I wonder if their Japanese shop is the same or not. I still consider Axes Femme a nice brand to buy from once in a while, especially for their shirts and cardigans, but I know now what to expect from their dresses in the future. 

dinsdag 1 september 2020

Lolita Fashion and being pregnant

 As I've mentioned in some posts before: we are expecting a little human (boy!) at the end of January 2021! At the moment I am in week 19. For your information: pregnancy takes about 40 weeks, so that means I am almost half-way there.


Why I wanted to write something about it, is because I have never read something about lolita fashion and being pregnant before. My guess that is because either most people decide to leave the fashion at a certain age or don't have time for it anymore after having a kid. I will probably discover that later, but I can at least talk about pregnancy and a growing body while still in the fashion. That said, the things that I say do apply to me myself and I can't speak for every body (literally for different body types) because everybody develops differently during pregnancy and your size might not even have a lot of influence on it. I think your health and spirit do though. So keep that in mind please!

So here I was, discovered I was pregnant and (we are) happy about it, but thinking I can not wear lolita fashion for the coming year. Eh well, that apparently went differently. It is possible to wear lolita fashion still, yes!  

In general the body will start to grow visibly later in the first trimester, so after week 10 or so. A lot of pregnant women have a hard time in the first months because of nausea and hormones, and only start gaining a bit of weight later on.
Okay, it does depend a bit. The growth of the body during pregnancy is different for everybody. I heard from people that went a lot of sizes up from the start as well. And usually if you're pregnant for the 2nd time it tends to go faster. But even then, it is still possible to wear the fashion. Why?

  • Lolita dresses have a sort-of hour-glass shape already, so that means that a bigger belly is not going to be a big problem, especially under layers of petticoat. For the bust and waist, some extra shirring might be useful at a certain point. 
  • There have been a lot of options for larger sizes in the last years. Besides full (back) shirring, western and chinese lolita brands (and not forgetting Bodyline) have been offering sizes that go up to XXL for example.

I've been thinking I couldn't wear it, until I decided to try what I could fit and what not. Some of my handmade dresses are made with a bit more space than the usual brand-dress, or with fabric that has some stretch to it. That already helped.  My skirts don't fit anymore. That is because those usually sit around my natural waist (a bit lower than the dresses), and that obviously doesn't work anymore.

Can you see I'm pregnant here?

I still fit in a normal jsk with half-shirring on the back though! I did pull out the lacing-ribbon for more comfort (one could of course just extend it as well). But that is just a regular Angelic Pretty jsk for you. It says on Lolibrary that it has a bust of about 91 cm, but I can assure it was bigger here 😋.

Of course probably a lot of lolita's that are not an S/M-size know this already, so it is no news. I am glad though that it still stretches up a bit.
The same counts for petticoats, they usually are fully elastic, although I would not wear them the whole day (especially after dinnertime my stomach feels like a balloon haha).

During pregnancy what also might happen is that legs and feet get a bit bigger because the body saves water there in some cases. That could possibly be solved by wearing stretchy tights instead of otks. The stretch is better in some socks anyway, so it depends. For me at the moment it's not a problem yet. Tights of course can't be worn higher up on the waist at a certain point, but there are ones existing for maternity. Sure, they might be of a plain color, but you can't have it all. My opinion: don't let one thing hold you back.

For blouses, the ones with shirring are usually still good to go for a while. I have the luck that I bought some of Chinese brands in "L" size. Which is not a western L per se but do still fit me. There are also Chinese shops that sell very elastic crop tops that fit a wide range of sizes. Same here is with tips for people that are larger in size, you can also try western lolita brands like Lady Sloth or main-street shops to search for blouses that are "loliable". On the photo I am wearing something I found in a local thriftstore and has frilly accents, I got lucky!

All in all, pregnancy until now means I can not wear one-third of my wardrobe, the other two-third I still can. And I think that is fine. I don't wear it daily, but if I would wear it more often I'd definitely go purchase more items that are wearable for bigger sizes. I already did buy one dress that I can probably still wear for the months to come and looking forward to it!

Negatives?

Aren't there any downsides then? Well..there might be. this depends on how you feel about it and about the situation.

  • Some people don't really feel well as much because of hormones and because 'growing a baby' costs quite some energy. Some days you feel tired a lot and just want to wear comfy homewear. Yeah the lolita style is not the most comfy one, that is true.
  • Some people have a hard time adjusting their body-image or feel like they lose their identity because of clothes they can't wear and a body that so quickly changes. I can imagine that if you used to wear it daily, it is a bit of an adjustment, temporarily.
Other than that I can't really think of something. Above points have the emphasis on "some" though. And as you could read earlier, there are quite some ways to go around it so that you can still wear it. Buy clothes you like that do fit and don't let it get you down if you can not wear one or two pieces of clothing! 
And I guess indeed, a healthy body-image and mindset around a changing body in combination with your 'identity' is really an important thing. I know lots of people struggle with this and that is understandable. I've never told a lot about it, but I had an eating disorder about 13 years ago and I've gone through stuff and in the end learned to have a better relationship with my body and a healthy mindset around that identity is not just material/visible things. In some way I am glad I got through that so I don't have to deal with it now mentally. If you ever have troubles though, please go see a counsellor or therapist, your mental health is super important.

The one thing I was actually more frustrated about is the limited range of styles and flavours within maternity clothes here in the Netherlands. Even when looking second hand, a lot of it is like the usual standard middle-age women style or just plain boring (probably so it caters to 'everybody' so they can sell it better). It's okay for now, I wear normal clothes during working days anyway, and I might look up some bigger sizes stuff online that is more cute-looking. Also, wearing cute accessories helps a lot too. And luckily it is all just for a limited time. Of course I know that after having a kid, getting back to your normal size takes a while, and that is okay, but then at least I won't need space for a melon around my waist, haha.
I'm happy baby clothing is at least cuter than the choice in the standard women-department

Until then I am all taking this in positively. I mean, isn't it amazing we can grow a little human 'ourselves'? And how the body changes and makes that possible? I think it is pretty damn special, even though yes at times it might be hard (and I know it is easy to say for me as I did not have complications until now except for some nausea and some rare times I almost fainted because I did not eat enough before going for a walk, oops). The time we went to see the first ultrasound was a-ma-zing and every time after that was so cool. I know getting/having a child it is not for everybody, and that is totally fine, but I'm a happy mom-to-be until now. Having a baby is the best reason to look up and buy all kinds of cute baby and kid stuff! Not that you need a reason for buying cute stuff anyway. 

I hope that this posts will encourage any woman that is wearing lolita fashion and wishes to become pregnant, to not throw aside the idea to still keep wearing it as long as you can 💓!

zondag 16 augustus 2020

Japan Trip 2018 - Part 7: Osaka, Kyoto and going home

This is where the memories fade a bit or start overlapping eachother in my head. I know in Osaka we had booked a different hotel than our friends, I am not sure why, maybe it was my husbands preference or possibly we were actually too late with booking, but what was funny is that when I looked up the location of the hotel it was at the same location as our hotel in Osaka the last time we were there. Yet the hotel had a different name. I guess it got a different owner (?) and they totally refurbished, it looked stylish inside but we were still happy with the 7-11 convenvience store across the street to buy our breakfast at.


We met up with our friends, ate dinner, did shopping on multiple days, had fun in Amerika-mura. Highlights were the pinball place with a huge selection of pinball machines and a retro game cafe where they dare to serve cocktails next to old game consoles. I tried on a dress in Closet Child but Nick didn't seem to be convinced by the fit so I didn't buy it. 

You definitely need to check out this place if you are in Osaka



Trying out a fancy dance machine.


We had way too much fun in arcades and found a nice restaurant where they served the most tasty crossover of yakisoba and sukiyaki. Also we somehow got free alcoholic beverages at one of the convenience stores, wut, in Osaka they want to get you drunk.



Delicious Sukiyaki for the 4 of us!

What was also funny is that it became November and you know what, the music played around the shopping areas suddenly changed to...can you guess?...christmas songs. Okay Japan I get that you like western holidays but this is maybe a bit too much. But yeah I didn't mind spotting some cute christmas items in the Pokemon Center though. I got a special discount since it was close to my birthday!

Minoo Park and cake

On the 4th of November, my birthday, we went to Minoo park which is a pretty forest valley including a waterfall at the end of the path. Remember that Japan had some natural catastrophies that year? Well it was certainly visible around the forest as lots of trees had fallen down. We also came across an interesting snack that I believe was sold here: fried maple tree leaves. Apparently you can eat them, we tried some, it wasn't bad actually. When we were back in Osaka my friend Sanne found a nice place to eat some cake for my birthday, yay!




  

Birthday cake!



Kyoto and going home

The day after this Nick and I went to Kyoto just to get a bit nostalgic again and walk around, it is still a very nice place where you can see traditions mixing with 'the new'. We took the chance to buy some souvenirs for our family and friends.

I am not telling a lot about Kyoto because we already went there in 2015, but I only wrote blogs in Dutch then. Because we only went for one day now, we did not visit any pretty shrines.


Visiting the Kyoto Pokemon Center of course. Still making use of my birthday discount!

The day following that we would go to the airport again to fly back home. The train to it felt a tiny bit scary because of the typhoons the bridge had just been repaired and because the KIX airport is basically on an island outside of the land you have to go over the water. But we got there safely of course. It was fun seeing if we could spend our last Yen on something we liked. I also spotted a very small Pokemon shop as well.

Finally after our long trip, back home, we made a picture of all our purchases. It was so much, I am almost embarrased but yeah seeing as that lots of these things can only be found in Japan, it's also great to be able to bring a lot of fun stuff home, that now decorates our house.

Later on I also made a canvas to hang our keychain collection on, since this is one of the easy and affordable souvenirs from Japan, but then again some are just too pretty to use in the end, haha.

In the end the three weeks were still pretty long, I think the ideal time would be around 18 days or so because I do think that some days were just filled with shopping that was not 100% necessary and maybe also because we already went to the major sights before. It definitely was fun though and I am happy we planned some overnight stays outside of the cities, that was really worth it. After a while Nick was making jokes about how many times we would visit Japan in our lives, as I had said that after this I had enough for a while but then that 'while' also seems quite short if you feel like returning one year later haha. Although we can afford to go it is not always easy to plan multiple weeks if it is during the normal academic year because we have to work. Also, because we are expecting a baby in January, I think that it probably will take a while before we will go on a big trip again, but that is alright. We still feel like Japan is our favourite country to visit for holidays. There is just so much to see, the nature is great, the taste in items/hobbies is matching ours and Japanese manners are still very nice, so I think we will go back one day, but I don't know when. Let's see!